It’s More Than Just Letting Go

One of the questions I’m asked most frequently in my practice is “How do I get unstuck?” or: “How do I get someplace other than where I am in my life (or healing, or practice)?”

Those who ask this question are often desperate to change their circumstances, bring new dimensions to their lives, make a shift from the physical, mental, and/or spiritual circumstances in which they find themselves. However, when they try to do so, they realize that something is holding them in their current place.

It’s easier for a practitioner to say, as many do, “Just let go,” but until you teach yourself how to do that, or have someone help you learn to do that, it can be extremely frustrating, so here are a few tips:

First of all, acknowledge the fact that you are stuck, that you know you want to move on to another reality other than the one in which you currently perceive yourself to be.

Secondly, fully acknowledge and accept your present circumstances, where you are at this moment in time, and remember the universal truth that it’s all going to change. That feeling of stuckness is actually your signal to yourself that it’s time to effect some kind of change, to move to the next level in your life.

Then realize that whatever is keeping you stuck is most probably some form of unfinished business, whether a deep-seated fear, a lack of self-confidence that keeps you from moving on to a new job or a new place, or a traumatic unconscious memory that blocks you from realizing your inner truth. The unconscious often plays a key role in stuckness, and your subconscious in the process of getting unstuck.

Your subconscious is also your direct line to your intuition, where what you “know” instinctively is ready to pop up into your stream of thought.

So my next bit of advice is: don’t be afraid to ask for help from someone who can help you get to the deepest part of what’s holding you up, wherever it’s located. You may need careful assistance to get to the root issue—chances are that you won’t be able to perceive it from where you stand. It helps to find someone who can help you navigate the depths of the unconscious level.

Your conscious mind may be telling you, “Oh, yes, I get that, I already forgave that,” but that doesn’t mean that your unconscious has agreed to it. There’s usually a very good reason why there’s a block there, and someone with an outside perspective and appropriate training can help you access those deeper areas where lasting change can take place.

And finally, trust your process, what you go through and what you may be feeling. Be accepting. Love yourself, even at the moments when you feel that you’re the most stuck. Love the stuckness, and feel it begin to shift with the energy of your love and attention. Trust your intuition; you’ll know when it’s time to move on.

Wishing You Peace & Blessings,

~ Melinda

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