The cleaner and clearer you are inside, the easier it is to hear the voices of inspiration and of Source itself.

– Melinda Inn

Hoʻoponopono is a psychological healing tool based on a traditional Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. The simple definition of the word is “to correct or set right.” With many modern healers, it has become an effective means of mental cleansing on an individual basis.

This simplest and most profound method of Ho’oponopono involves the silent repetition to oneself of of four phrases:

“I’m sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
“Thank you.”
“I love you.”

These phrases can be used to cleanse and release old patterns stored within our bodies. You can use them as vibrations to yourself and about yourself.

For instance, if you’re dealing with an old emotion, such as anger, you can say these phrases to the source of that emotion, the tightness, the angry being inside you that is holding onto it. There’s no judgment about it, no “Oh, I shouldn’t be angry.” There’s just a direct acknowledgement and communication of:

“I’m sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
“Thank you.”
“I love you.”

It can take a lot of courage to go there at first, because it means that you’re taking 100% responsibility for whatever happens or has happened to you in your life. No more: “He/she did this to me, so I have a right to hold onto my anger.” You’re just dealing compassionately with the anger itself as it manifests in you, physically and emotionally.

You can use Ho’oponopono at any time in everyday life. For instance, if someone comes to you and they’re suffering from back pain, you can try asking yourself: “Is there something within me that’s bringing me this person with this type of pain?” The answer may not be obvious, but something will probably spring to mind, some kind of subtle physical or mental tension. Say to it:

“I’m sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
“Thank you.”
“I love you.”

If it’s your own pain, saying these words is a way of expressing compassion to the source of the pain.

If you’re walking down the street and find yourself making a judgment about someone you see, that’s on you, not them. You can say the four phrases to yourself, to the unhappy part of yourself that’s holding that judgment. And then just let it go.

If you have an illness, you can repeat the phrases to whatever old pattern is perpetuating or abetting that illness. Instead of: “Oh, damn this illness,” it’s:

“I’m sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
“Thank you.”
“I love you.”

Whether you grasp the subtleties of the concept or not, just trying it is going to help you introduce more peace into your being. It’s really all on us; it’s we who have to do the work. It’s not a victim-consciousness thing; it’s not, “Oh, everything’s my fault;” it’s not pointing a finger at anyone else.

We’ve always known that our healing/awakening is an inside job. This is just one cool tool to use to “clean your vessel.” You don’t have to work hard at it; you’re not kicking down doors, but with this practice, you may start to notice that good things come to you more easily and effortlessly. You can also use the words as a kind of mantra, to clear, clean, and relax yourself.

And of course the cleaner and clearer you are inside, the easier it is to hear the voice of inspiration and of Source itself. The cleaner you are, the lighter you are, the more light you put out, and the more everything and everyone lights up around you.

Is there something within you that needs to hear these words?

“I’m sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”
“Thank you.”
“I love you.”

“I love you.”

~ With deep gratitude to Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona,
Kahuna lapaʻau, and Ihaleakala Hew Len, Ph.D.

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